“And of some have compassion, making a difference. And
others save with fear,
Pulling them
out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh”
Jude
1:22-23
Anna’s husband cheated on her, and
the world is asking her to leave him. The young mother of four has already been
made the poster child of victims of infidelity, in the latest Joshua Duggar
scandal. I can’t keep track of how many articles have been posted directed at
her on the internet, and each of them with a different version of the same
plea: leave your husband!
Rome wasn’t built in one day,
and neither is a lifelong marriage. Success, in any area of life, does not
happen overnight, neither does it happen without putting up a fight.
A marriage is a work in
progress, from the moment one says ‘I do’ until death do you part. Or so it is
meant to be, although that is not always the case. I think I can count with the
fingers of both hands how many couples I know that are still together with
their original spouse after more than twenty or thirty years of marriage, and
still have fingers left over. With those I can count how many couples I know
that found the perfect match the second time around, and are still together
after many years. But I don’t have enough hands or fingers to count the dozens
of couples I know that are either divorced or getting ready to divorce or are
in their third plus marriage.
Women cheat on their husbands
just as much as men cheat on their wives. I’ve known people who have left their
spouses and children to go play house with the person next door just to go back
to their own place after a few months of sheer insanity, right about the time
when the novelty wears off. I’ve known people who have said: “I’ve paid my
dues, raise the kids, now is my time to enjoy myself”, as if having been
married has been the biggest waste of time in their lives.
Anna Duggar is not alone,
neither is she the poster child of infidelity or spouse abuse. Anna Duggar is just
another spouse caught in the middle of the same kind of scandal that rocks many
households in America and the world. And her desire to remain by her husband,
which by the way is no different than Hillary standing by her then President of
the United States man, when he got caught cheating on her with an intern in the
White House, should not be taken as a sign of weakness. Anna Duggar is a strong
woman. Actually, Anna Duggar is far stronger than 99% of the women that are
telling her to leave. Why? Because instead of giving up, Anna is ready to
fight! And a good fight it will be!
Against the rulers of
the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high
places”
Ephesians 6:12
The only time Anna Duggar will
give up is the day she decides to quit trusting God and seeking His counsel for
her marriage. Until then Anna is a warrior! The kind of warrior every household
should have.
If Anna, in her anger, hurt and
disbelief, packs her bags and leave, she will be no different than any other
woman out there who at the first sign of trouble says ‘the heck with this, Im
outta here, this is not what I signed up for’. That’s the counsel of the world.
That’s what the world advises her to do. Over and over again you read on the
internet ‘you don’t have to put up with this; get yourself and your kids out of
there; save yourself; protect your children’. In other words, give up.
But thank God for Anna’s faith!
And God bless her for standing firm in her convictions! Here’s a woman with a
very clear understanding of what a marriage is really all about. Even if she
can’t understand the purpose of God, she knows the Word and what it means to be
a godly wife. And she knows the importance of forgiveness. Here’s a woman who didn’t
just plan a wedding, she signed a covenant and meant it. Anna knew what she was signing up for, because before
she said ‘I do’ she agreed to been there in good times and in bad times.
“Thou therefore endure hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ”
2
Timothy 2:3
The answer is not to walk away. The
answer is to fight for those who won’t or can’t themselves. To stand in the gap
between the living and the dead. To ask that God, whose hand is not short that
it cannot stretch, will reach to the depths of the pits we sometimes choose to walk
through, and plea for the souls that Satan wants to steal.
A warring wife is the watchman
of her home that keeps the thieves away, the one who puts out fires and heals
her broken bed.
Anna Duggar: You go girl! I hope
the world keeps watching as you as you stand upon the Rock of your salvation,
in whom alone is hope! That their insults and their ignorance may turn to the
praise and the glory of His name!